After my last post about this my daughter gave her older friend another chance. Just to make this easy her older friend I will call J and the new girl I will cal V. Since V came to the school J has been fighting with girls she had been friends with for many years. My daughter remained friends with J and V as others stopped talking to them. This was detrimental to my daughter, who is loyal to a fault. When J and V turned their back on my daughter, they thought she would be alone.
My daughter has starting over with girls that she tried to get J and V to be nice to. When V got mad at J abd decided not to talk to her for a week, J was very upset. She was crying and moping. The only person there for her was my daughter. After that week V started talking to J and they were best friends again. Then a couple weeks later V did it to J again and J relied on my daughter to get her through. Which of course my daughter did. J then started talking to V again and the alienation of J’s older friends continued.
J had quite a few friends before this started, now all she has left is V. My daughter gave J another chance, they have been friends for 6 years. Our family has always watched out for her and treated her and her mother like our own. This kid has slept over our house for days at a time and when her family was having a tough time ours was there for her. My daughter has been asking to go to a different school all year because of all the issues.
My wife works at the school where V used to go. She was talking to some of the kids about V because she started coming to our house and we wanted to know a little more about her. The kids said she started trouble with all the girls at that school and that is why she left. Some of the administration said the same thing. So my wife told me about this and we decided not to say anything to my daughter about it.
My daughter was staying over J’s house when J invited V over. V said she is not ok with my daughter and that my daughter needed to apologize to her. The day after my daughter freaked out on them for screwing her, they both kept asking myb daughter if she was ok. Why would someone do that if they were not ok with them? It seemed to me it was a way for V to stick her thumb in my daughters eye, letting her know that J was better friends with V. My daughter called my wife to come home. My wife talked my daughter into staying and told her about V’s problems at her last school. The only thing my wife said to J was asking if she noticed how she never had any problems with other kids until V got there.
J who we have helped, protected from some bad situations told V’s mom what my wife said to my daughter. She listened when my wife was talking to my daughter. She lied and said things my wife didnt say. V’s mom called my wife for the second time in the last month to yell at her for my daughter being mad at her kid and apparently for telling all the kids at the school not to be friends with her kid. She said it is sad that a grown women is getting involved in 12 year old drama, although she called us 2 times about it. Crazy is as crazy does.
J is no longer allowed in our home and I will do nothing to help her. She created a problem where there wasn’t one to get into V’s good graces. My daughter said screw her and is done with her. She has continued hanging out with other kids. You can tell she is upset though. This is ridiculous.